How
Feng Shui Can Help Your Love Life
- Have you been looking for love without success, for what
feels like forever?
- Do you wonder why you can't seem to meet someone who
is right for you, or why you can't hold on to that person
when you eventually do connect?
IF you are frustrated by a seemingly endless
quest for the kind of love relationship you deserve, the layout,
furnishings, and energy of your home and bedroom could be
part of the problem!
When the areas of your home affecting your
love life are cluttered, missing from your floor plan, or
suffering from sha chi (harmful energy) it can be difficult
to find and maintain a good relationship. If the energy in
the Relationship power spots in your home is blocked or weak,
you may feel tired, depressed, unable to focus, hampered in
your efforts to connect with a potential partner. Where chi
flows too strongly, you may feel out of control, overly emotional,
or anxious much of the time. Communication becomes more difficult,
and relationships can feel unstable.
Feng shui problems in your home or bedroom
can even affect your reputation, make it harder to meet new
people, hinder your personal growth, and lead to increased
arguments and miscommunication -- all of which contribute
to difficulties in your love life!
A key principle of feng shui is that everything
is connected energetically. This means that your thoughts
and feelings, even your behavior, are strongly influenced
by your surroundings. At the same time, the state of your
home reflects your mood and attitude. A dark, untidy bedroom,
for example, contributes to an atmosphere of fatigue and depression,
which in turn makes it harder for you to find the energy to
clean the place up and air it out. In feng shui terms, it
is also undermining your ability to attract and maintain a
joyful and supportive romantic attachment.
Fast Feng Shui for Singles
teaches you, step-by-step, how to analyze your floor plan
and decor, diagnose feng shui problems, and adjust the energy
in your home so that your living space can better support
you in finding - and keeping! - the perfect love you desire.
In writing this book I was strongly influenced
by my own personal experiences, both as a feng shui consultant
and as a single person looking for romance. When I first began
to apply feng shui to my own love life, I discovered that
the techniques I'd learned during my professional feng shui
training didn't work if I was not ready emotionally for what
I thought I wanted. When I stopped trying so hard to find
a partner, and shifted my focus to using feng shui to resolve
past relationship issues and accept myself just as I was,
I was able to create the inner foundation for meeting someone
new. I then used the feng shui techniques you'll learn in
this book to help me connect with my one true love -- the
fantastic man who is now my life and business partner and
with whom I share a wonderful home here in Hawaii.
My approach to helping you transform your
love life with feng shui is based on this insight that attracting
a new partner is only one aspect of a great, lasting relationship.
For example, if a serious relationship has recently ended,
you may benefit most from a period of healing and self-reflection
before starting to date again -- no matter how eager you may
be to connect with your next partner. Or perhaps you've been
dating one person exclusively for a while, and are wondering
whether or not it's time to make a commitment.
Fast Feng Shui for Singles
goes far beyond the bedroom tips offered in other books on
this important topic. It explores the specific needs and challenges
of each of the five phases of the Relationship Cycle - phases
that have a key impact on how you use the feng shui ba gua
and elements to make appropriate adjustments to your home.
The Fast Feng Shui Relationship Cycle
is based on the Creative cycle of the five elements. Each
stage of the cycle is associated with one element whose qualities,
characteristics, and energy most closely match your situation
and goals. Fast Feng Shui for Singles shows you how to use
feng shui techniques to help you move appropriately and effectively
through each of the five relationship phases:
PHASE 1. CENTERING
The Relationship Cycle begins with Centering, which is associated
with the contracting, inward-focused energy of the metal element.
In this stage you are not in a relationship, and are not actively
dating anyone. Centering is a time for rediscovering your
sense of self and for creating a strong foundation for being
an equal partner in your next relationship. In the Centering
section, you'll learn how feng shui can help you release past
loves, heal a lonely heart, and prepare your home for a new
romance.
Phase 2: EXPLORING
The Exploring stage of the Relationship Cycle is associated
with the flowing quality of the water element. The inward
focus of the Centering phase turns outward, and you feel ready
to get involved in a relationship again. You start dating
actively, and are open to new people and experiences, but
there is not yet one special person in your life. In Phase
2, you learn feng shui techniques for enhancing your social
life and helping you meet a wide range of new people. If the
idea of getting back on the dating scene makes you cringe,
this part of the book will help you "get your feet wet" again
more comfortably!
Phase 3: CONNECTING
The Connecting phase of the Relationship Cycle is associated
with the new beginnings and upward growth of the wood element.
In this stage, your focus shifts from meeting new people to
exploring possibilities with one special someone. In the Connecting
section you'll learn to support a budding relationship by
using feng shui to create a home environment that encourages
romance.
Phase 4: LOVING
The Loving phase of the Relationship Cycle is associated with
the energizing, passionate qualities of the fire element.
This is the head-over-heels, mad-about-you experience of mutual
infatuation that is so much fun and what we are thinking of
when we yearn to be "in love." In this stage you and your
special someone are inseparable, and are recognized by friends
and family as a couple. In this chapter you'll find out how
feng shui can help you enhance the longevity of this often
short-lived phase by identifying and removing barriers to
communication and intimacy.
Phase 5: UNITING
The Uniting stage of a relationship is associated with the
stable and nurturing qualities of the earth element. Now you
and your love are ready to make a commitment and build a life
together, and you either become engaged or decide to live
together. In the Uniting chapter, you will look at how feng
shui can support a stable and long-lasting partnership filled
with peace, joy, and love.
By tailoring your feng shui activities
to the special focus and needs of each stage of the Relationship
Cycle, your progress through the five phases will be smoother
and more successful. And if a relationship ends, you'll know
how to start the cycle again with ease, grace, and confidence.
Along the way you'll explore a variety
of ways to apply feng shui to your unique personal circumstances
and living environment, including:
- Mundane cures: physical changes you can make to your home
to make it a supportive and empowering environment for romance
- Transcendental cures: rituals for removing negative chi
and shifting your own energy
- Insight work: meditations and journaling exercises to
help you reconnect with yourself and your environment and
learn from your past romantic history
A cornerstone of the Fast Feng Shui philosophy
is that you will get better results with feng shui, faster,
when you focus on specific goals and target your activities
to what you really need. Fast Feng Shui for Singles
shows you just how to do that, so you can find joy and contentment
with your perfect partner - just as I have.
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