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CONQUERING "YEAH, BUT" TO GET RID OF CLUTTER by
Stephanie Roberts
I was shopping at a home-improvement
store yesterday, and couldn't help but notice the huge displays of storage
boxes and closet organizers that seem to sprout up like mushrooms every
January. And no wonder: retailers know that "get organized" and "do
something about this clutter" are near the top of the most-common New
Year's Resolutions list, right after "lose weight and get in shape."
I've taken advantage of these January specials myself when I've needed
more storage capacity, but for many people buying plastic bins and closet
organizers is a mistake. That's because more storage space makes it
way too easy to pack away more stuff without going through it first
to decide what to keep and what should be tossed.
The secret to dealing with your clutter and getting organized isn't
to buy more storage bins... it's to do the grunt work of going through
all that stuff that's overtaking your home and get rid of as much of
it as possible. If you purge first, you probably won't need to buy more
storage bins. But if all you do is buy more storage bins, what you'll
end up with is lots of boxed-up clutter. And in feng shui terms, boxed-up
clutter blocks your energy and clogs your life just as much as the un-organized
kind. If you really want to free up your energy and your life, more
storage boxes are not the solution!
The reason storage bins are such a popular "solution" to the clutter
problem is that most people have a hard time making decisions about
what to keep and what to give away or throw out. They decide to "get
organized," make some quick progress in the early stages, and then hit
a wall when the easy stuff is gone and they're faced with deciding what
really counts as a "treasure". And when the decisions are hard to make,
it becomes so much easier find room for another box or two under the
bed or in a closet.
If you are having trouble "paring down" it's likely that your inner
voice is saying "yeah, but..." a lot as you try to make your keep-or-toss
decisions.
For example, you might pick something out of box or a closet and say
to yourself, "I guess I don't really need to keep this." But before
you can get it into a things-to-give-away bag, your inner voice pipes
up with "Yeah, but..."
- "...it's pretty"
- "...it was my grandmother's"
- "...it was a gift from so-and-so"
- "...I paid a lot for it"
- "...I haven't used it yet"
- "...I might wear it again someday"
- "...it will fit after I lose some weight," or
- "...I'll feel guilty if I throw/give it away."
Every time you pick something up and can't decide what to do with it,
stop and listen for a "yeah but" comment from your inner voice.
Once you start listening to your "yeah buts", you'll get a clearer idea
of the particular language of concern that stops you from letting go
of things. Probably you will find that certain clutter decisions are
more difficult for you than others. For example, I have no qualms whatsoever
about tossing out old letters and greeting cards, but getting rid of
clothes that I haven't worn in five years because they are a size too
small is very difficult for me. What this really means is that I am
comfortable and secure in knowing that the people who love me love me,
but I am not at peace with my body and don't want to accept that I'm
no more immune to "middle-aged spread" than anyone else is.
Someone else, however, might make quick work of cleaning out their clothes
closets, only to come to a dead stop when faced with a 20-year collection
of postcards and birthday and holiday cards. Their rational mind says,
"this is a box of paper, I ought to just toss it out." Their heart cries
out, "You can't throw away your friends! You can't throw away your relatives!
What kind of an unloving, ungrateful person are you?!" So back the box
goes, into storage, and another would-be declutter is left feeing guilty
and confused - guilty for holding on to clutter, guilty for wanting
to throw it out, and confused by why it's so hard to get rid of things
they really don't have a need for.
With postcards and greeting cards, it really is the thought that counts.
Ask yourself what your friends and relatives intended by sending you
those cards; did they want you to know they were thinking of you, or
did they intend to fill your home with clutter? Anyone who cares for
you enough to send you a card also wants you to live comfortably and
happily in a well-kept home that suits and supports you - and that means
getting rid of your clutter.
So many of our "yeah, buts" have to do with past memories or potential
future usefulness. Holding on to this stuff fills our heads and hearts
with "what if" and "if only" messages, which make it harder to live
fully in the present.
When your closet is full of "skinny" clothes, for example, every time
you open it to look for something to wear you are reminded that you
used to be slimmer, that you're not happy with the size you are now,
and that you're still hoping to lose some weight "some day." As a result,
each time you reach for a "not-skinny" garment, you feel like a failure.
What an unpleasant emotional message to burden yourself with every day!
When our closets contain only clothes that are the right size and that
fit our lifestyle and personality as well as our bodies, choosing an
outfit becomes empowering instead of belittling.
By paying close attention to the "yeah but" messages that are keeping
you from making clutter-clearing decisions, you can gain greater insight
into the emotional drivers that contributed to all your stuff piling
up in the first place. You may need to consciously remind yourself that
you need to make a choice: are you going to go on living with clutter,
or are you going to choose to move closer to your goal. The clearer
your vision of how you want your life to be without clutter, the easier
it will be for you to make those difficult decisions.
The key to conquering the "yeah, buts" is to remember that these are
the second thoughts that pop up in response to your first thought, which
was, "I guess I don't really need to keep this." That's the voice you
should be listening to.
(c) 2005 Stephanie Roberts More articles about feng shui and clutter-clearing
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