Fast Feng Shui for Singles
Fast Feng Shui for Singles:
108 Ways to Heal Your Home and Attract Romance
by Stephanie Roberts
This book is for all of you who want more love and romance in your lives! You know someone wonderful is out there for you, but aren’t sure where or how to find that future partner. Now you can use the power of contemporary Western feng shui to transform your home and your heart into environments that welcome romance and support a lasting, loving relationship with the man or woman of your dreams.
If you are frustrated by a seemingly endless quest for the kind of love relationship you deserve, the layout, furnishings, and energy of your home and bedroom could be part of the problem! Fast Feng Shui for Singles teaches you, step-by-step, how to analyze your floor plan and decor, diagnose feng shui problems, and adjust the energy in your home so that your living space can better support you in finding – and keeping! – the perfect love you desire.
“[Stephanie's] wisdom brings an undeniable contribution to helping single people clear whatever may be blocking their attraction or maintenance of a healthy, enriching relationship… Highly recommended.”
- Barbara Rose, author If God Was Like a Man
When the areas of your home affecting your love life are cluttered, missing from your floor plan, or suffering from sha chi (harmful energy) it can be difficult to find and maintain a good relationship. If the energy in the Relationship power spots in your home is blocked or weak, you may feel tired, depressed, unable to focus, hampered in your efforts to connect with a potential partner. Where chi flows too strongly, you may feel out of control, overly emotional, or anxious much of the time. Communication becomes more difficult, and relationships can feel unstable.
Feng shui problems in your home or bedroom can affect your reputation, make it harder to meet new people, hinder your personal growth, and lead to increased arguments and miscommunication — all of which contribute to difficulties in your love life!
In writing this book I was strongly influenced by my own personal experiences, both as a feng shui consultant and as a single woman looking for romance. When I first began to apply feng shui to my own love life, I discovered that the techniques I’d learned during my professional feng shui training didn’t work if I was not ready emotionally for what I thought I wanted. When I stopped trying so hard to find a partner, and shifted my focus to using feng shui to resolve past relationship issues and accept myself just as I was, I was able to create the inner foundation for meeting someone new. I then used the feng shui techniques you’ll learn in this book to help me connect with the fantastic man who is now my husband and with whom I share a beautiful home here in Hawaii.
My approach to helping you transform your love life with feng shui is based on this insight that attracting a new partner is only one aspect of a great, lasting relationship. For example, if a serious relationship has recently ended, you may benefit most from a period of healing and self-reflection before starting to date again — no matter how eager you may be to connect with your next partner. Or perhaps you’ve been dating one person exclusively for a while, and are wondering whether or not it’s time to make a commitment.
Fast Feng Shui for Singles goes far beyond the bedroom tips offered in other books on this important topic. It explores the specific needs and challenges of each of the five phases of the Relationship Cycle – phases that have a key impact on how you use the feng shui ba gua and elements to make appropriate adjustments to your home.
The Fast Feng Shui Relationship Cycle is based on the Creative cycle of the five elements. Each stage of the cycle is associated with one element whose qualities, characteristics, and energy most closely match your situation and goals. Fast Feng Shui for Singles shows you how to use feng shui techniques to help you move appropriately and effectively through each of the five relationship phases:
PHASE 1. CENTERING
The Relationship Cycle begins with Centering, which is associated with the contracting, inward-focused energy of the metal element. In this stage you are not in a relationship, and are not actively dating anyone. Centering is a time for rediscovering your sense of self and for creating a strong foundation for being an equal partner in your next relationship. In the Centering section, you’ll learn how feng shui can help you release past loves, heal a lonely heart, and prepare your home for a new romance.
Phase 2: EXPLORING
The Exploring stage of the Relationship Cycle is associated with the flowing quality of the water element. The inward focus of the Centering phase turns outward, and you feel ready to get involved in a relationship again. You start dating actively, and are open to new people and experiences, but there is not yet one special person in your life. In Phase 2, you learn feng shui techniques for enhancing your social life and helping you meet a wide range of new people. If the idea of getting back on the dating scene makes you cringe, this part of the book will help you “get your feet wet” again more comfortably!
Phase 3: CONNECTING
The Connecting phase of the Relationship Cycle is associated with the new beginnings and upward growth of the wood element. In this stage, your focus shifts from meeting new people to exploring possibilities with one special someone. In the Connecting section you’ll learn to support a budding relationship by using feng shui to create a home environment that encourages romance.
Phase 4: LOVING
The Loving phase of the Relationship Cycle is associated with the energizing, passionate qualities of the fire element. This is the head-over-heels, mad-about-you experience of mutual infatuation that is so much fun and what we are thinking of when we yearn to be “in love.” In this stage you and your special someone are inseparable, and are recognized by friends and family as a couple. In this chapter you’ll find out how feng shui can help you enhance the longevity of this often short-lived phase by identifying and removing barriers to communication and intimacy.
Phase 5: UNITING
The Uniting stage of a relationship is associated with the stable and nurturing qualities of the earth element. Now you and your love are ready to make a commitment and build a life together, and you either become engaged or decide to live together. In the Uniting chapter, you will learn how feng shui can support a stable and long-lasting partnership filled with peace, joy, and love.
By tailoring your feng shui activities to the special focus and needs of each stage of the Relationship Cycle, your progress through the five phases will be smoother and more successful. And if a relationship ends, you’ll know how to start the cycle again with ease, grace, and confidence. Along the way you’ll explore a variety of ways to apply feng shui to your unique personal circumstances and living environment, including:
- Mundane cures: physical changes you can make to your home to make it a supportive and empowering environment for romance
- Transcendental cures: rituals for removing negative chi and shifting your own energy
- Insight work: meditations and journaling exercises to help you reconnect with yourself and your environment and learn from your past romantic history
A cornerstone of the Fast Feng Shui philosophy is that you will get better results with feng shui, faster, when you focus on specific goals and target your activities to what you really need. Fast Feng Shui for Singles shows you just how to do that, so you can find joy and contentment with your perfect partner – just as I have.