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September 25, 2008
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Love, job not going well after move |
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Q: Dear Stephanie, I am a firm believer in Feng Shui and have read almost all of your books and have applied many of the principles you suggest. Thank you for being such a wonderful person.
(You’re welcome!)
I recently moved to London from Athens, Greece. Back home, I was living with my parents and I had made all necessary adjustments to my room to activate my love life, career and helpful people section. I met someone special who lives in London, and after a year of a long distance relationship, I moved to London to be with him. I lived with him for a few months, but since moving here things have not gone well. I have an unsatisfying temporary job, and my relationship hcollapsed a few weeks ago. I am absolutely heartbroken at this, and have moved in with my sister (who also lives London), but her space is tiny, and there is nowhere here that I can call “mine” in order to apply feng shui to my situation.
I strongly believe in feng shui and I know that once I have my own space again, things will start to improve in all aspects of my life as I will be able to apply the feng shui principles again. However, at this point, I am unable to practice feng shui.
I would really appreciate it if you could advise me what I can do in terms of feng shui to start coping with my break up and generally getting my life back on track. I am looking for a permanent job but I know I have to be patient with that. Dare I hope to get back together with the man I love?
A: I’m glad to hear that feng shui helped you meet someone appealing, and truly sorry to hear that the move to London is not working out as you had hoped. Any big move like that takes courage.
As for rebuilding something with the man you love, well, I’m a huge fan of hope, but I’m not much in favor of restricting the goal of relationship happiness to getting back together with an ex. I talk about that in more detail here.
As I mentioned in another post here, when you are in temporary borrowed quarters feng shui really isn’t available. I do encourage your intention to find a place of your own so you can apply feng shui again, but in the meantime the law of attraction/art of allowing is more useful.
It’s possible that, on your ex’s part, a long-distance relationship was enticing in ways that a day-to-day involvement was not. It’s also possible, since neither work, love, or housing has worked out well for you so far, that London is simply not supportive of your good fortune, as much as you may feel excited and happy to be there.
As you probably know if you’ve been reading my stuff for a while, I’m a follower of western astrology, and have consulted with astrological advisors on most of the key turning points in my adult life. That includes: moving to Hawaii from New York City; picking a good date and time to get married (which led to a magical sunrise ceremony when we were advised to tie the knot at 5:48 am!); and choosing an auspicious day and time to incorporate the internet marketing side of our business.
We also consulted with a “relocation” astrologer when we felt the time had come to leave Maui, so we would be sure to move to a location where we could thrive and be happy. As it turned out, the expert we consulted advised that simply moving from Maui to the Big Island would create enough significant changes in our ‘relocated” charts to be worth doing. Plus, we’d get to stay in Hawaii, which we love. So here we are in Hilo now, and so far so good.
The reason I bring all this up is that it may be that London is simply not a good place for you to find career or romantic happiness. Or perhaps you are simply going through an astrological “rough patch” (which does happen) and things will turn around for you in that location within a few months or so. Good advice does not come cheap (except right here, of course!), but if you can scrape together the funds I highly recommend a consultation with relocation expert Julian Lee. You can contact him (and learn more about his services) here.Labels: astrology, Feng Shui Q+A, relationships
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9/25/2008 03:20:00 PM
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September 17, 2008
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Is my Love area missing? |
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Q: Last month I moved into a new apartment in an old 1886 brick/brownstone building. It is a 290 SF 1 bedroom with no living room on the top floor with decent views out to rooftops and trees. It’s very quiet, too!
Once I moved in, I realized that the ‘L’ shape of the apartment left out the whole LOVE corner!?! Is this possible? I have also been experiencing troubles in that part of my life lately, so I am looking for some help to understand my current physical location and any ways to counteract the ‘missing’ Love corner.
Also, my bathroom is up one 8” step from the rest of the apartment. Is this inauspicious, especially in my wealth corner?
A: It looks to me as though what you’ve got is a large extension on the left side of your apartment in the wealth area and also a little bit of “fame.” 
This is a good thing, although it’s not so great that the space is occupied by the bathroom. However, the fact that the bathroom is a step up and “outside” the main ba gua lessens its impact.
The most important area for romantic influence is the Relationship area of your bedroom. And lucky you: not only is your bed in that area of the room according to the doorway ba gua, it’s also in the SW area of the room that’s in the SW sector of your apartment. That’s a triple romance whammy when you take the compass directions into account.
I realize the space is small, but is there any chance you could turn the bed so the head of the bed is against the West wall? You’ll still be in a good position in the room, but might be able to move it so one side isn’t jammed up against the wall as it is now. When the bed is tight in a corner like that, a good relationship becomes more difficult because one person will feel disempowered. If you can arrange it so there’s enough room for someone to (theoretically) get out of bed on either side (even if one side is a tight squeeze) that would be much better.
You are missing a bit of the Relationship area of your kitchen, where the window to your fire escape cuts off the corner of the room. That would be a good place for a romance cure of some kind, perhaps something that can hang in the window or sit on the windowsill.
Hope this helps you understand the home layout better,
Stephanie R.
Q+A POLICY The purpose of this Q+A service is to clarify modern feng shui principles and remedies, and to help you make sense of contradictory teachings you’re likely to come across. If you are new to this blog, please read the Q+A Guidelines (see sidebar on left) before sending me a question. Do expect that I will edit your message for clarity and focus, and that it may be several days (or longer) before I post a reply. Keep in mind, too, that you’re getting my personal opinion on the topic. If you ask someone else, you might get a different answer. Labels: ba gua, bedroom, Feng Shui Q+A, relationships
posted by Stephanie R. #
9/17/2008 10:49:00 AM
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September 15, 2008
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Feeling Invisible |
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Q: I am single and ready for a relationship, but I am not getting much attention from the opposite sex at all. It seems like I am invisible, even though I have placed images of a couple embracing and of a couple being married in my Relationship power spots. What else can I do to jazz up my love life?
A: What most interests me in your question is the phrase, “it seems I am invisible.” The words any client uses to describe their situation are important, so that’s the kind of aha clue that feng shui practitioners listen for. I expect there’s something going on in your house that echoes invisibility in some way.
My first guess would be that it has something to do with mirrors. What do (or don’t) the mirrors in your home reflect, and are they positioned in places where the lighting is good and you can get a good look at yourself? If you can’t see yourself clearly, how can you expect others to notice you? For example, if the only large mirror in your space is a full-length one on the inside of a closet door that is usually kept closed (which I’ve seen in a client’s home), that may be contributing to your “invisibility.”
Do you have a good-sized mirror near your front door, so you take a look at yourself before venturing out into the world? If you don’t, I recommend one: it will help with your visibility, especially if you pause for a moment to check your reflection before you venture out every day.
As for “jazzing up” your love life, that's an interesting phrase, too. What does that mean to you? For example, if I take it literally I would suggest including a picture of a couple having a grand time at a jazz club among your relationship “cures.”
I suspect you may also have missed an important imagery step, which is to cut out your face from a snapshot, and paste it over the face of the woman in the couple photographs you already have. You want those loving moments to be about you, not about some stranger from a magazine.
Wishing you admiring glances from someone special soon,
Stephanie R.Labels: Feng Shui Q+A, mirrors, relationships
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9/15/2008 10:13:00 AM
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September 09, 2008
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Roommate's Bad Love Vibe |
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Q: My roommate’s bedroom is in the love and relationship corner of my house. In addition, she has a very negative attitude towards relationships and is very outspoken on the matter. Aside from enhancing the relationship areas of other rooms, is there anything I can do to compensate for the negative energy and loss of control over that portion of my house?
A: I was going to say “no -- that part of the house is her space, so it’s not yours to control. Let it go and do what you can to ignore her.”
Then I had the idea that you could take a floorplan for your house/apartment, and pretty it up with a bunch of cute, playful “love-type” stickers – hearts, cupids, roses, kissy lips, and stuff like that. Put these stickers all over the part of the floorplan that represents your roommate’s space. Write “love is wonderful” and “love = happiness” or stuff like that in the margins and over the rest of the floor plan. Use a pink or red glitter pen if you can find one, and draw some more hearts while you’re at it. Make this silly and have fun!
Keep your stickered floorplan someplace in the relationship corner of your bedroom (out of sight is fine). Imagine that all this goofball happiness is counteracting your roommate’s bad love vibe. Next time her doom-and-gloom attitude towards romance grates on you, retreat to your room, pull out your “love plan” and have a secret chuckle that she’s gonna be happy in spite of herself. Visualize that she meets someone wonderful, falls madly in love, and moves out, making space for a much better house-partner for you. Be so happy for both of you!
In the meantime, let her be as miserable as she wants to be but claim your right not to have to listen to her bitch and moan about how awful relationships/men/women/whatever are. There’s no rule that says you have to participate in her negative vibe by listening to it.
Wishing you only good love – and roommate – experiences,
Stephanie R.Labels: Feng Shui Q+A, relationships
posted by Stephanie R. #
9/09/2008 12:03:00 PM
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