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September 01, 2009
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How We Manifested Our Dream House |
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At this past New Year (Jan. ’09), as my husband and I discussed what we hoped to accomplish this year, we also discussed whether or not to renew our lease when that rolled around in late spring. Our current rental wasn’t where we wanted to spend many more years, but it was spacious, comfortable, in a decent neighborhood, and our landlord was happy to rent to us for as long as we wanted to stay. Moving, we decided, would be too much hassle, too much of an interruption to our ambitious project plans, and with the economy barely limping along it seemed a good idea to postpone the expense as well.
But when the Universe grants an important wish like “help us find our dream house” it’s a good idea to jump on it and worry about catching up with your original plans later.
One afternoon in February (after we’d decided not to move) I was relaxing for a few minutes after lunch when my Inner Voice (intuition, or higher self, or whatever you want to call it) said, “Go see what’s on Craig’s List.” I’ll admit I received this advice somewhat skeptically. Our lease didn’t expire for another 3-1/2 months, so even if we’d wanted to find a new place, it was way too soon to start looking. Nevertheless, when my “gut voice” speaks up like that, I’ve learned to pay attention. So I went to check the Big Island rental listings on Craig’s List.
And there was our house. I knew as soon as I saw the photos that this was the house for us.
“Honey,” I called out, “come look at this house I found on Craig’s List!”
“What are you looking at Craig’s List for?” he complained. “We decided we aren’t going to move this year.”
“Just come and see these pictures,” I insisted, so he did.
“Oh, wow,” he said. “That’s our dream house.”
My husband and I have been “dreaming out loud” about our dream house for a few years now, and we’ve developed a very clear shared vision of what that house will look like, what area we hope it would be in, and a list of specific details that ran to several pages. Yes, we did write it down. We’ve eagerly anticipated how great it would be when the day came that this dream home was ours. And last fall, for about a month, I spent a few minutes every morning visualizing and expressing gratitude for our future home.
I didn’t expected it to manifest quickly. After all, one part of our dream is owning the house, and until the economy picks back up (at the least) that hasn’t seemed likely. But we’re happy with how things turned out, because although we’re renting for now the owner says he’s open to selling at some future point, whenever we’re ready.
For those who might be curious about my morning visualization method, here’s what I did “first thing in the morning,” meaning after I’ve had my first mug of coffee but before I’ve turned the computer on and shifted into work mode: · I sat outside on our deck (i.e., in a comfortable chair, in a peaceful spot) · I enjoyed the early morning for a few minutes, listen to birds chirping, admiring the sunlight on green leaves (i.e., mindful appreciation of the moment with a quiet mind) · When I felt ready, I picked up my mala (a strand of 108 beads). Using a mala is not necessary, it’s simply a focusing tool.
· As I held each bead, I made a short statement of appreciation about some aspect of our future home. Some mornings I’d cover a lot of different things, other days only a few. Sometimes I’d repeat a certain feature or statement several times over, other days I would run through a lengthy list before repeating it. I didn’t have a set “do it this way every day” plan, and just followed what felt most comfortable each day.
The statements I used went something like this (each line represents what I might say for one bead on the mala):
“Thank you God for our beautiful home…” “…which we love so much and can so easily afford.” “Our home is on the north side of town… “between the Wailuku River and Honomu.” “It’s a spacious house on the side of a hill…” “… with great big decks…” “… and an ocean view.” “We love the fruit trees in the yard…” “… and our quiet, safe neighborhood.” “Our house has lots of interior room…” “… including space for our home offices.” “The master bath has a nice big tub…” “… and the kitchen is a delight to cook in.”
… and so on, you get the idea.
As I went through this features list, I imagined myself in that house, and focused on feeling how happy and grateful we would be to be living in there. This emotional focus on appreciation and gratitude (rather than on wanting) is every bit as important as the list of features, and is what makes the method work. It also put me in a happy, relaxed mood every morning, which is a nice way to start the day.
I repeated this daily for about a month. When it felt done, I stopped focusing on the house and used that time for either general meditation, reading, or to focus on some other issue.
I also didn’t push for a time-frame, choosing to trust that our house would be ready for us at some future point with perfect timing. Given that we’d decided, at the time we found this place, that we weren’t going to move this year, the timing felt a bit rushed at first but in the end it did work out with perfect timing. In spite of the interruption to our summer plans, we’re so happy to be in our new home that the sooner-than-expected expense and inconvenience were well worth it.
As for that wish list, we got everything but the swimming pool. Maybe when we buy this place we can find a way to put one in… Labels: intention, mala, meditation, moving, new home
posted by Stephanie R. #
9/01/2009 12:49:00 PM
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Feng Shui Tips for Finding Your Next House |
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Moving is the theme of the day, so here's a reprint of a newsletter article I wrote in 2003. I’m posting it as a companion piece to my article about how we “manifested” the house we moved into this summer.
Anyone who’s familiar with my writing knows that I view intention as a key ingredient in the successful practice of feng shui. If you are planning a move, first spend some time in quiet reflection on what qualities and features you are looking for in your "perfect" home.
Be very specific about this. Make a written list of the top 10 things that are important to you, and prioritize it. This could be anything from a specific location or price to "lots of closet space" or "a sunny master bathroom" or "central air conditioning" or "a magnolia tree in the front yard." Whatever is important to you. Make sure you have a very clear idea in your mind exactly what you are looking for, and which items on your Wish List you are willing to give up in order to have something higher on the list.
Clean and activate Chien Gua (Helpful Friends) in your current home to make sure you have the support and assistance of the sellers and real estate agents or rental agents who will be involved in connecting you with your perfect home. Focus on the benefits that your purchase /lease will provide to them, so there is a good flow of positive intention in all directions. In your meditation, feel the pleasure of knowing that your home purchase/rental has helped another family to prosper. Picture everyone involved benefiting and being enriched by the transaction -- physically and emotionally as well as financially.
Another helpful exercise is to make a list of all the things you like and appreciate about where you are living now. Thank your current home for sheltering and supporting you as you prepare for the transition to your perfect home. Visualize someone else moving in after you have moved out, and being supported and enriched by the space.
When you are clear about what you are looking for, ask for it. Literally ask God, the Universe, Spirit, whomever or whatever you commune with, to connect you with your perfect new home. You can write your request on a small piece of paper, and place it on your home altar or in Li (Fame) or Hsun (Fortunate Blessings) guas, both of which have the aspect of being connected with future experiences.
Now relax, knowing that it is all being taken care of for your greatest good. Let go of feeling you have to control the process yourself, and start saying "thank you, thank you, thank you" for the perfect home that you will soon receive.
The more time you can spend in meditation during this looking period, the better. For one thing, it will help you weather the stress of moving more easily. More importantly, it will help you be open to the energy of each home you see while you are looking. Eat a healthy diet, and get enough exercise and sleep. Stress, fatigue, and poor eating habits will block your energy just like clutter in the home blocks the energy of the house. Keep your energy light and open, so you can more easily connect with your perfect space.
As you are house-hunting, compare each possible home to your Wish List, being sure also to pay attention to your body sense of whether or not this is the right home for you. Try not to feel pressured into taking something that is okay but doesn't feel special. We looked at two similar cottages in the same neighborhood recently. One was a little larger, and had a nicer view, but as soon as we drove up my body tensed up, letting me know it didn't want to live there. The other cottage, although smaller, just felt right. If you pay attention to your body sense, you will walk into a certain house one day and know, "This is it!"
Sometimes when we anticipate a move, it's easy to get lazy about keeping the current space clean and well-maintained. Remember that clutter and dirt are both symptoms and causes of stuck energy, and you want to be free to move on to another home. Don't neglect your current home just because you plan to move soon.
I have used this process the last few times I've moved -- three with finding a great rental, and once with purchasing a home. It has worked beautifully for me, and I found the whole transition to be smooth and empowering.
May your perfect new home be filled with love and light,
Stephanie R.Labels: intention, meditation, moving, new home
posted by Stephanie R. #
9/01/2009 12:44:00 PM
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August 14, 2008
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It Doesn't Feel Like "Home" |
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Q: Dear Stephanie, I have written to you before with a question and your advice was helpful to me. I am now in another situation for which I would like your help. Last year my husband and I purchased our first home. The area is quiet and residential, and the house is cozy. The price was affordable and we were eager to move out of my parents’ overcrowded house.
But we didn't take location into account. This house is far from my daughter's school, my parents' house, our church, hospitals, etc., and friends and family don't visit very often because of the distance. Since moving in last July, I have found myself struggling to feel "at home." I've re-painted, re-decorated and de-cluttered but nothing has worked.
We know the area we would like to be in, but cannot afford to buy there at this time. With another baby on the way I am feeling even more anxious because I will now have a baby to commute with while driving my daughter to school in September.
How can I start making the house feel more my "home" so I can settle into it and start raising my family? I don't want to be here permanently, so how do I focus my energies and intentions on obtaining a home in the area we do want while living more at ease in the existing one?
A: How wonderful that you were able to move out of your parents’ crowded house and purchase a home of your own in a nice neighborhood. I wish you also great joy with your growing family.
I suspect the reason you are feeling such difficulty about this house is that you are hoping external changes will help with an internal problem: you wish to be somewhere else. Until you can make some peace with that, you will probably continue to feel “not at home” no matter how much feng shui you do.
I get the impression that you believe that allowing yourself to feel at home in your current place will keep you from moving toward something better. So you’re holding back instead of settling in, because you’re afraid of being stuck with what you don’t want.
But that’s not true at all. Continuing to feel dissatisfied and unhappy with your current situation will only make it harder for you to move from that place to something better. And it will increase the likelihood that you will not feel satisfied with your next home, either, even if it’s in the neighborhood you want to live in.
Instead of seeing “feel at home here” and “move on to there” as contradictory impulses, recognize that allowing yourself to “feel at home here” will set you up to “move on to there” more quickly and easily – and with more satisfying results -- when the time is right.
You can't change the fact that your current home is too far from the things you'd like to be closer to. But you can choose where you put your attention, and how much you allow the home's drawbacks affect your mood and attitude on a daily basis.
Here’s what I would do if I were you:
1) Make a list of everything you don’t like about where you are living now. Include features and location of the house and how you feel about it (i.e., "it's too far from town", “we made a rushed decision,” “I regret moving here”). Get all of that icky stuff out onto the piece of paper. Use as many sheets of paper as you need to get it all down.
2) On a fresh sheet of paper, use this next format to focus on what you do like about where you are living now: “Even though this house …,” [something from your ‘don’t like’ list here] “I really appreciate ….” [something you do like about your house]. For example: ~ “Even though this house is too far from town, I really appreciate having a place of our own.” ~ “Even though this isn’t our dream location, I really appreciate this quiet, safe neighborhood.” ~ “Even though this house was not the ideal choice for us, I really appreciate having a mortgage that we can afford.”
You get the idea. Come up with something positive about your house for every single item on your ‘don’t like’ list. Small things are fine. Maybe you like the light fixture in the dining room, or there’s good water pressure for taking showers. You don't have to match each item on the left with a "similar" item on the right, just think up something to put there.
Finding affordable housing – or any housing at all – is a huge challenge for many people on our planet, so be grateful for having a roof over your head! There’s nothing wrong with wanting more or better, so long as you don’t allow that to keep you from recognizing the blessings you already enjoy.
3) Now create a WISH LIST for your next home: Use the results of steps 1 & 2 to make a list of all the features and experiences you would like from your next home: “Wouldn’t it be great if our next house…?” ~ "...is in [desired] neighborhood" ~ "...immediately feels like home" ~ "...is so perfect for us that we are happy to stay there a long time" ~ "...is a place where friends and family love to visit with us" ~ "...is convenient to our church and schools" etc.
Now that you’ve gotten really clear on what you appreciate about where you are, and what will be even better in your next place -- and what kind of a timeframe you would like to move in if you're ready to decide that -- you may want to create a scrapbook that illustrates the home you want to move on to.
Keep in mind that feng shui is just one of many tools available for improving our life experience. That doesn’t mean that feng shui is always the best approach to a particular issue or situation. I reply to quite a few questions by recommending some study of the principles of deliberate creation/law of attraction. You can read more about why I see that as an important complement to feng shui here.
Hope this helps to shift your feelings about your home in a more positive direction, Stephanie
Q+A POLICY The purpose of this Q+A service is to clarify modern feng shui principles and remedies, and to help you make sense of contradictory teachings you’re likely to come across. If you are new to this blog, please read the Q+A Guidelines (see sidebar on left) before sending me a question. Do expect that I will edit your message for clarity and focus, and that it may be several days (or longer) before I post a reply. Keep in mind, too, that you’re getting my personal opinion on the topic. If you ask someone else, you might get a different answer.Labels: Feng Shui Q+A, new home
posted by Stephanie R. #
8/14/2008 08:54:00 AM
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