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October 02, 2008
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Unpleasant Co-Worker |
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Q: I just started a new job. The lady at the desk across from me and I don’t get along, don’t speak and the energy from her is horrible. What do I put on my desk between us to deflect her negative vibes from me?
A: Sorry to hear you're having to deal with a difficult colleague in your new job. Once again, we're looking at the issue of deflecting negative chi of some kind, and once again the remedy is a faceted crystal. These crystals act like a prism to refract light (and therefore chi) from a specific source, thus diffusing the influence. Most often, a faceted crystal ball is suspended from the ceiling: to put one on your desk you can either use a stand for the crystal or use a crystal figurine instead.
That’s the “by the book” approach, but there’s something important I want to add. I truly believe that there’s a risk, in taking any steps of this kind, that your intention to “protect myself from her negative vibe” only reinforces the adversarial energy. I don’t mean you shouldn’t use a crystal if you’d like to, but do make an effort as well to shift your expectations of the relationship. If you place a crystal on your desk for protection, that’s a pretty powerful way of saying “I don’t expect things to get better, and they might get worse, I’d better put this here so I’m safe from all that awful chi over there.”
A more enlightened approach is to counteract an unpleasant vibe with a more powerful positive influence from your side of the room. I’m particularly fond of a smiling and compassionate Buddha image for this. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. I’ve used a postcard in a cheap plastic frame over the inside of my front door (in several different homes) for over 15 years now, with the intention that it beam down blessings on all who enter: it looks nice and I feel happy whenever I see it.
Which is what you really want, right? You’re asking for help because you want to feel happy at work. Very probably your unpleasant co-worker is prickly because she’s not happy either. So wishing her happiness will improve things for both of you.
BTW: although I’m a big fan of smiling Buddhas, it’s possible that religious imagery of any kind might be a no-no in your workplace. If that’s the case use a more neutral image such as an angel or smiling sun face. Whatever you choose, I do suggest that you find some way to beam a lot of good vibes in your coworker's direction. If it’s not easy to do that yet yourself, then find a happy, smiling image to shower her with blessings on your behalf.
Be especially vigilant in your attempts to notice and appreciate even tiny improvements in her behavior, so you can have a moment of gratitude for the shift for the better.
You may also find this post helpful.
Wishing you success in your new job,
Stephanie R. Q+A POLICY
The purpose of this Q+A service is to clarify modern feng shui principles and remedies, and to help you make sense of contradictory teachings you’re likely to come across. If you are new to this blog, please read the Q+A Guidelines (see sidebar on left) before sending me a question. Do expect that I will edit your message for clarity and focus, and that it will be several days (often longer) before I post a reply. Keep in mind, too, that you’re getting my personal opinion on the topic. If you ask someone else, you might get a different answer.Labels: Buddha, crystals, Feng Shui Q+A
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10/02/2008 03:02:00 PM
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