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July 17, 2008

Broken Love Cures

Q: Dear Stephanie, I did some Feng Shui adjustments and empowered them as you advise in your book, Fast Feng Shui For Singles, but the strangest things are happening: things are just dropping and breaking from my relationship corners. A picture fell off the wall and shattered; I had 2 candle holders and was burning the candles and one just shattered to pieces; and I had a figurine with 2 birds and it fell and one of the birds shattered.

To say the least I am very concerned. Is this normal in Feng Shui? If so what does it mean?

A: Sorry to hear your feng shui remedies are not working out as you'd hoped.

One item falling is not necessarily significant, although I think it’s worth pondering what it might mean. But a cluster of cures dropping and breaking is not normal at all. Clearly there is something discordant going on with that area. It's impossible for me to say exactly what that is, but here are some possibilities:

1) Mundane factors: nearby construction, or train tracks, for example, could be creating vibrations that cause things to fall. Sometimes when we get focused on the more mystical aspects of feng shui, we forget that very ordinary things to happen also! If this were the case, though, I would expect other things (not just your romance cures) to be affected.

2) External "chi" factors: perhaps predecessor chi or some other factor needs to be cleared with a space clearing.

3) Internal conflict: if you have any inner doubts or uncertainties about relationship or intimacy issues, perhaps due to a past difficult experience, these could be influencing what's going on in the home. These are not necessarily conscious or obvious. You may feel strongly that you want to meet someone, but perhaps you have some subconscious fear of intimacy, or of being hurt or abandoned if you do get involved. That would create a discord between what you are focusing on as your desire, and what your inner self is anxious about, and that discord might manifest on the physical level as cures falling/breaking.

4) Resistance from household members: You haven't mentioned whether or not you live alone but if, for example, you have children or a parent living with you, and they would prefer you not to be in a relationship for some reason, that could be a contributing factor.

Whatever the reason, these incidents are a clear sign that you should step back and do some clearing of space, thoughts, intentions, etc. I suggest that you take ALL your relationship cures and remedies down and clean them and set them aside (place them all in a box somewhere until you are ready to put them back up).

If you don’t think there are any “inner conflict” issues at play, I suggest "dowsing" (with a pendulum or dowsing rods) to determine just where this energy discord is present in your home, or find someone locally who can work with you. If the problem is something that could be improved with a space clearing ceremony, it would help to have someone who is not emotionally invested in the outcome to help you with it.

Once you have cleared the space, put the objects back up. If you need to do any inner work or clearing, you might find that something as simple as journalling about it will help. EFT ("Emotional Freedom Technique") tapping can be very helpful as well. Or you might work with an energy healer to release subconscious blocks about relationships.

As you can see there are lots of possible causes, and many options for what you might do about this. Allow your intuition to guide you in choosing what approach feels best to you.

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I sent my comments to this question by email, and received this reply:

"Your number 3 reason hits the nail on the head. About 2 days after I put the remedies in place a lot of things that I had buried in my subconscious started to surface. My first relationship, when I was quite young, was with a very jealous and abusive man. Since that time (it was many years ago), I have thought I’ve wanted to be with someone. But as soon as anyone started to get close to me I would sabotage the relationship in various ways, without seeing what I was doing. I recognize now how my behavior has kept me single. The broken cures and my prayers have brought it all out, the memories and the pain and humiliation. This has been a very painful realization, and I hope it means the healing has begun. I am going to arrange to do a space clearing, as it feels that it would be beneficial for me now."

Many of us are attracted to feng shui because it seems like a fun and easy way to create change in our lives. But sometimes feng shui turns out to be a more difficult learning and growth process than we expect. As difficult and painful as it is to face deeply buried feelings, letting them up and out is the single most important and powerful step of the healing process.

When an emotional history is so (understandably) difficult, it seems wise to take some time to focus on healing and release work before moving on. A victim’s support group might be especially helpful for anyone whose gone through such a difficult past.

It is a lot more appealing to look for love than do the alone work, but it's the alone work that enables us to get ready for a new relationship and to fully and joyfully participate in one when we find it. Too often, people -- and I think women especially -- keep looking for the "right" relationship to heal their heart-wounds, not understanding that healing has to happen from within first, to allow a good relationship to happen.

Wishing you peace, luck, and happiness,
Stephanie R.

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posted by Stephanie R. # 7/17/2008 12:06:00 PM

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