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Improve Your Love Luck with
Feng Shui
by Stephanie Roberts
Are you tired of looking for love without success?
If so, the layout, furnishings, and energy of your home and bedroom
could be part of the problem. When the areas of your home affecting
your love life are cluttered, missing from your floor plan, or suffering
from sha chi (harmful energy) it can be difficult to find and maintain
a good relationship.
A key principle of feng shui is that everything
is connected energetically. This means that your thoughts, feelings,
and behavior are influenced by your surroundings. A dark, untidy
bedroom contributes to an atmosphere of fatigue and depression,
which in turn makes it harder for you to find the energy to clean
the place up. In feng shui terms, it also undermines your ability
to attract and maintain a joyful and fulfilling romantic attachment.
Feng shui problems can even affect your reputation, make it harder
to meet new people, and lead to increased arguments and miscommunication
-- all of which contribute to difficulties in your love life.
Improving your love luck with feng shui starts
with understanding that attracting a partner is only part of the
solution. For example, if a serious relationship has recently ended,
you may need a period of healing and self-reflection before starting
to date again, no matter how eager you are to connect with your
next partner. Maybe you have no trouble finding dates, but can't
seem to meet the right kind of person. Or perhaps you're seeing
someone exclusively, but seem to be stuck just short of commitment.
Here are some quick ways you can apply basic
feng shui principles to increase your chances of success in various
stages of the relationship cycle:
When you need to recover from a break-up before
moving on, your key task is to let go of the old relationship and
reconnect with who you are as an individual. In feng shui terms,
relics from past relationships - such as photographs, clothes, and
mementos - hold you in the past. The stronger that old energy is,
the harder it will be to move on to someone new. Remove anything
that reminds you of a past failed relationship from your bedroom.
This includes things that are out of sight in your closet, a dresser
drawer, or under the bed. Pillows, mattresses, and bedding absorb
your energy over time, so when a marriage or live-in relationship
ends, it's a good idea to buy new sheets and pillows and even a
new mattress if you can afford it, to help you make a fresh start.
New bedding is also a good idea if you have been single and lonely
for a long time. Pamper yourself during this stage, and try to do
at least one thing every day just because it makes you happy.
When you are actively looking for a partner,
your key task is to create space for a new romance. If your closets,
dresser drawers, and bathroom shelves are filled up with your own
stuff, there is no room on an energetic level for someone new to
come in. That's why the best way to attract a new romance is to
literally make space for it. Empty out at least one dresser drawer
for your next partner's clothes. Make space in the closet, in the
bathroom cabinet, and on bookcase shelves. Start with your bedroom,
then move on to the rest of the house. Is there room for another
person's DVDs and music in your CD rack? Where will your new sweetheart
put his or her health supplements, exercise gear, notebook computer?
Is there room for another car in your garage, or have you filled
that space up with stuff? Make a list of all the areas of your home
where your new partner might need some space, and try to free up
at least 25 percent of it. If you can't clear 25 percent of the
relevant spaces, just do the best you can; your strong intention
to create room for a new relationship is the most important factor.
When you do connect with your new love, you can look for a more
spacious residence together!
When you have met a "likely prospect" and want
to nurture that new relationship, your key task is to ensure that
your bedroom supports romance. This is a good time to get rid of
any clutter blocking the path from the front door of your home to
the door of your bedroom. This will help keep the energy in your
bedroom fresh and strong. In feng shui, the symbolism of what we
see is very important, so make sure your bedroom says "romance"
in some way. Focus on these areas: 1) what you first see when you
enter the bedroom; 2) the wall across from the foot of the bed;
3) the relationship area of the room (the right-hand corner on the
side of the room opposite the door, and/or the SW sector). Just
about anything that means romance to you can be appropriate feng
shui imagery for your bedroom. Traditional romantic symbols such
as hearts, cupids, and pictures of happy couples always work well,
as does a faceted feng shui crystal hung in the relationship area
or over your bed. Look for opportunities to group objects in pairs,
such as placing two pink or red candles or a bud vase with two red
silk roses on your bedside table. Pale green is also a good color
for new romance.
Although these simple steps are just a few of
the many ways you can use feng shui to improve your love luck, they
will do a lot to shift the energy of your home. As your environment
becomes more welcoming to romance, your own energy will shift as
a result. When you are clear in your heart about the kind of love
you want, and take action to welcome it into your home, your dream
of lasting happiness with a wonderful partner really can come true.
Copyright © 2004
Stephanie Roberts
STEPHANIE ROBERTS is a feng shui consultant and
writer in Maui, HI. She is the author of Fast
Feng Shui for Singles: 108 Ways to Heal Your Home and Attract Romance,
available at your local independent bookseller, Amazon.com, and
at http://www.fastfengshui.com.
SEE ALSO:
Article: Finding Your Feng
Shui Power Spots for Love and Romance
Article: How to Improve Your Love
Life with the Power of Feng Shui
Sample Quick Tips: If Your Issue
is Love and Romance
Excerpts from the 'Fast Feng Shui
for Singles' book
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